Why don't they get it? Girls, I mean. they think they need to cake on 4 inches of make-up to look good. No matter how many times guys tell them otherwise, they always buy into the lie that society feeds them. Why can't they see they're beautiful just the way they are? The way GOD made them, not society's ridiculous expectations. Of course, I can't blame them: so many guys out there just tell them that to...well, let's admit it... to get in their pants. I can't even begin to imagine what they go through, trying to find a guy who's actually genuine towards them.
It literally makes me sick when I hear girls say they're fat or ugly. Why? Not only because they do not realize they're absolutely gorgeous. Not only because they believe society: the same society that promotes, no, encourages drugs, sex, and alcohol. No, it sickens me because they've allowed people to fool them into believing that they're worthless, never good enough. Who made them? Society? Friends? NO. GOD made them, HE did!! And the God I know does not create junk! When girls think they're not pretty enough or skinny enough or athletic enough or busty enough or perfect enough, they say, in essence, that God did not make them good enough!
Now, as Christians, we know that's impossible. If you're not a Christian, listen up. God created the heavens and the earth, the birds of the sky, and the fish of the sea; He created the mountains, the rivers, the lakes. everything. Every single thing you see around you: every grain of sand, every single star in the sky, every blade of grass. Everything! And you know what He said when He finished? Huh? Do you think He said, "Eh. It's good enough." or "Man, I could've done a better job." or "Well, I'll do better next time" ? No!! God, when He finished, looked around at all He created and said it is good! Since God created us in His image, we look, in some ways, like Him!! God created us as good! He didn't make us anything less than perfect!
I'm so sick of hearing of my friends' heartbreak because of some jerk. It all starts the same, too. The boy's amazing, funny, respectful, mature, the whole package. But, girls, you want me to let you in on a little secret? The majority of the time, the guy's not being himself! He's acting to be all those things so he can get close to you = it's not real! (Of course, there's a few exceptions, I'm talking generally) How do I know this? A few reasons:
1.) I'm a guy.
2.) Been there, done that. Yeah, I used to be a jerk, too. I'd get close to girls by any means necessary, just for the sake of getting close.
3.) That's how we're trained to act. Not using excuses here, but we're told to sleep with as many girls as physically possible, and we're not "men" until we do so.
With that being said, I'm challenging every guy reading this to grow up and get real. If you're even slightly serious about your faith, consider this your first lesson about girls: they're children of God, too! They're not pieces of meat for you to land or another tally mark on the list of girls you've slept with. They. Are. Daughters. Of. God! And you'e not funny when you tell them to go make you a sandwich or to get back in the kitchen. Seriously? It's old and not funny. If you've ever been on a date, a real date, where you pick the girl up at her house and actually see her dad, you know. You know you better be on your best behavior, you better get her back when her dad says to, and you best treat daddy's little girl like a princes, or it's gonna be your head. Just like that big, scary guy in the doorway is her dad, God is too! And if you treat her with respect for her biological father, you better treat her like an angel for her eternal Father.
I'm not trying to single guys out here, but come on! We're supposed to be men of GOD, not punks of society! If you're a Christian, you know when I say we're not of this world. Romans 12:2 tells us: "Do not conform any longer to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind." How are we supposed to show others we're different if we act the exact same as nonbelievers? We can't!! You see shirts, hats, car decals, and a ton of other stuff that says NOTW. but do you know what that means? It means: Not Of This World. We are resident aliens here! This isn't our home! The reason we long for God is because we belong with God! We cannot act like nonbelievers do-- what kind of message does that send? No. We're called to be different from what society expects us to be. If nonbelievers don't see us as any different than them, they lose interest in the faith we cling to, and we lose credibility.
If you're at all serious about your relationship with Christ, you know what you need to do, how you need to act. Just because your non-Christian friends sleep around DOES NOT give you permission to do so! 1 Corinthians 10:23 says "Everything is permissable, but not everything is helpful. Everything is permissable, but not everything builds up." We are supposed to be differnt! We are called to reflect Christ's life, and the last time I checked, being a jerk to girls, treating them like sex objects, and usint them is not how Christ lived!! Do you even know how many girls you've hurt by living like that?! Think about that. Once you've had your fun with her, you leave her and forget her completely. But i guarantee she didn't forget you. I've talked to so many girls who regret giving up their virginity to some guy they thought was "the One". So how about you think about her feelings and the consequences before you get wrapped up in your pleasure?
Girls need a guy who won't hurt them. WE, as Christian men, need to be that guy. If we're supposed to be reflections of Christ, we need to start acting like it. If girls can't turn to a Christian guy for trust, who can turn to? We need to be the exception to the rule! So, I challenge you, Christian men, to treat your girlfriend, girl friends, and every girl you meet like she deserves to be treated, like she was made to be treated. Like a princess! A daughter of God. Stop following and believing what the media tells you to be, and start living like the Bible tells you to be!
And ladies, treat yourselves with the same respect you want your guy to treat you with. Don't date just any guy who likes you. Wait. Wait for the person who's been chosesn for you: you won't regret it. You don't need to do anything sexual with a guy for him to care for you -- at least, not any guy who's worth it. Don't buy into the lie that says you need to look like a supermodel or dress like one. You are beautiful the way you are. You are perfect, for God himself mad you, and saw that you are good! He does not make junk! He loves you the way you are, the way He made you! Don't change for people who ask you to change-- God's love is unwavering, His compassion unchanging. He loves you. He made you. You are His.
Your brother in Christ,
Jonathan Gamble
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